Because ah boy's life hasn't even been remotely interesting for a long time,
ah boy is too ashamed to update this space with nonsense.

Because ah boy has been too distracted by work and play for the past few months,
ah boy has to spend the remaining days playing catch up on studies.

Because ah boy has planned to study so hard for mocks,
ah boy motivated himself by making plan for sinful feasting on 16/03/09
at Shangri-La's THE LINE.

Because of the impending lil hiccup (16/03/09 feast)
to ah boy's determined constructed weight-loss plan,
ah b0y took part in the Newton active run today.

And finally, to reward ah boy for the three years of hard work
playing balance between work and studies in Uni,
ah boy is

GOING KOREA ON 25/05/09!!!!!!!!!!!

My friend, Ms Snoopy was telling me one fine day that she was stunned by
a question her friend put to her.
She was asked by her friend the type of guys she was looking for,
and the first thing she said was "上进心- " (the quest to constantly better the self)
b4 she could finish, she was cut off,
"Why is it that girls are always looking for guys with 上进心???"
and she asked me that.

That honestly wasn't one of the top qualities on my list until last Thursday.

On that unfortunate Thursday,
I was asked two academically challenged questions,
and was rudely awakened by importance of the above-mentioned quality.

Let me list out the offences in chronological order:

Offence 1:

An sms while I was at work
" What is capital stock?"
After I smsed the sms-er my answer,
his reply was,
" Oh. I suddenly feel like an idiot for asking that question."

Mildly amused that he FINALLY realised that,
I replied,
" It's ok. I've been educating idiots the whole day,
one more stupid question makes no difference."

The offence: Probable stupidity.

Offence 2:

That night I received a call from that same person,
"Can I ask u a question abt econs?"

"yah, wat?"

"It's abt the simple accelerator model."

"ok, wat abt it?"

"Wah u so smart ah, to ans me straightaway? No need take out notes u noe everything?"

-_-!!
"Still I haf to noe ur question b4 I noe wat notes to refer to right?"

"Yah, my question is everything abt the model. I've been lookin at it the whole day and I still dunno wat it is. So can u explain the whole model to me?"

The offences:
Outright stupidity
Sheer laziness
Complete lack of common sense

Ok, let's be fair, I took some time to digest the model initially and understand
what was required of me.
The issue that I was pissed with, that anyone would be pissed with
was the fact that no effort was even put in to attempt to understand the model
in order to properly form a constructive query about it.
I mean, come on.
There must be SOMETHING specific or more narrow in scope about the model
that u don't understand, u can't just throw me a question like that.
I mean, what do u expect me to do?

Give u a repeat telecast of our lecture??????

Plus, I would think that it's common sense to rummage my notes AFTER
being asked a question.
No point going to dig out my notes for a possibly stupid question
that I can answer offhand wat!!!!

Wat is his problem anyway?

Even if I'm not "so smart",
I'm quite certain that
I'm smarter than him.

Offence 3:

At this point in time,
I was already mildly annoyed and moderately impatient
to hang up to go back to my own revision.

The conversation continues....

"So how's ur studying of law coming along?"

"Lidat lor, wat else u expect?"

"I was just trying to show my concern. Anyway, u don't need so stressed.
U....no time to study.....busy working.
Don't stress urself to finish revising everything,
just focus on a few chapters like me.
Study them well then catch up for ur final exams ........ etc etc etc"

For no reason,
he started to "console" me.

As I listened, my level of impatience grew
together with something else,
something that's suspiciously like a mixed cocktail of disgust and annoyance.

Ruthlessly, I cut off his litany of negations

"That's no excuse wat. I admit I played too much, worked too much, and neglected my studies.
So I'm only rightfully paying the price now. Of cos I have a harder time revising now. If I give myself some slack now, it'll be worst come the finals. "

"Ok. Errr....u don't tire urself out ok? Must rest also. Good night."

The offences:
Too many presumptions.
Making too many excuses for inadequacies.

It really struck me then and there
that there really is no appeal in guys who are too easy on themselves.
Especially in a guy,
if there's no determination to even want to succeed,
I don't know if they will ever come anywhere close to even being decently satisfactory.

After I have failed myself in my performance for A'levels,
I was dealt a rude blow that woke me up.
At that point in time,
it struck me that a person should really spend some time and effort getting to know himself,
his shortcomings
and undertake active measures to if not correct them,
minimise them.
If you know that you're not doing well because you're not as smart as others,
then u bloody well work harder.

Intelligence is something you're born with.
If you belong to the unfortunate group of people the Heavens happened to miss out,
then you bloody well make sure u have a drive that's stronger than everyone else
to play catch up.
I strongly believe that if you want something bad enough,
you'll get it some day, some way or another.

The least you could do is gear yourself towards it.
And that's the least anyone should do.
Procrastination and complains will not help at all.

Of cos it would be great if someone is willing to offer assistance along the way,
the path to your desired destination would be undoubtedly smoother.
But that's an exception.
And most of the times,
we're all ordinary people,
leading ordinary lives.
Lives that are so normal they are not worth mentioning,
and hence you don't hear them often enough.
Just because you don't hear them often enough doesn't mean that
that then is the exception
and you start expecting help at every corner.

Life is unfortunately like that.

Life is nothing like the movies,
or drama
(You got it babies, I'm quoting "He's just not that into you" )
If you wanna even have a remote chance of getting close to success,
however you define that,
you bloody well
WORK.

The simplest definition of "work" is thus
NOT GIVING YOURSELF EXCUSES FOR YOUR FAILURES.

As you can probably tell from my long
agitated rant,
I was quite pissed off that night.

And thanks to that,
I finally understood the importance of that quality.

Ms Snoopy, I stand by you sista!!!

Interestingly, there's a psychological explanation for that.
Some psychologists attempt to explain this phenomenon of
women being attracted to men who are successful,
and men who are attracted to women who are beautiful,
by reason of evolution.

Studies show that human beings,
and all living things for that matter are subconsciously concerned
with the continuation of the existence of their kind.

Women expand more energy in the production process,
and hence their concerns are based in quality.
That is the possibility of their offsprings surviving to adulthood
and undertaking the cycle of reproduction.

Therefore,
in looking for a mate,
women are therefore unconsciously looking for males who are financially stable
in urban times of today,
and physically strong in olden primitive times
as these qualities contribute primarily to ensuring of survival.

Men on the other hand,
while also concerned about the continuation of their kind,
have their focus on quantity.
To them, the way to ensure the cycle goes on
is to produce as many offsprings as possible,
so that the chances of having at least one survival is higher.
Consequently,
that explains their lascivious intentions when seeking a mate.

Attractiveness to them, as research shows encompasses women built in a certain way,
with a certain body ratio as that is a sign of futility.
Where face is concerned, it was deemed as a sign of character.
People tend to regard ugly people as being evil
and good looking people as being kind.
Which I thought to be quite true.
Haven't your mums always tried to convince u to be good
because good people are usually blessed?
I take "blessed" as being granted with good looks, good life

As ridiculous as that belief may sound,
I think there's some truth in that.
The trend of women being more picky about looks nowadays
seems to correlate to the rising number of women being financially independent.

That said,
I still think the driver behind men and women being fussy about looks
is simply one of the age old seven sins,
lust.

Yes, ah boy's life is infinitely boring nowadays
to be going on and on about nothing interesting in particular.

*sigh*

I'm really in need of meditation and reflection.
Maybe after (I'm done being)mock(ed)s (at) on the 14/03/09,
I should really consider enrolling myself in some Buddhist Society
or something like that.

Or maybe,
I should just get myself another stunner haircut......